My husband has stage 4 kidney cancer that's spread to.his lungs.
He had 1 immunotherapy and had 3 bad side effects including enlarged heart (myocarditis) he's on high dose steroids to bring this down but is very fatigued.
I'm working full time long shifts and I'm struggling and exhausted most of the time.
He can't do much at all.
I get angry and frustrated at him , and feel so guilty for it.
We meet the oncologist on Friday to discuss options. He's saying he doesn't want to do anymore treatment he feels worse after the treatment than he did before It.
Any way
Hi 
Hi Della and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and I'm sorry to read about your husband's diagnosis and how much you're struggling.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the kidney cancer and secondary lung cancer groups, as you'll then connect directly with others who have the same type of cancer as your husband, and also the carers only group which is a supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions.
To join, just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your husband's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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