Hi all, no sure where to start, my partner has been diagnosed with esophageal cancer and just finished his first flot chemo Of 4 to be followed by an operation.
He's done great with side effects so far an is taking each day as it comes. But im really struggling as he does not have much patience and constantly lashing out verbally at me and honestly don't know how to deal with this as im sure thing will only get worse as this is going to be a long journey.any advice would be much appreciated thanks
Hi Alexn77f8cc
Welcome to our community, I am Steve one of the community champions and my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma so somewhat different to your husband.
I know how difficult things seemed for me in the early days of Janice's cancer though I felt I was mostly doing ok, like with your husband I felt she was doing mostly ok though her first rounds of chemotherapy caused some real issues that ended up with the treatment being stopped while they fixed the other issues.
I ended up walking in to our local Maggies and through the tears did something of a brain dump. They helped me realise that I needed to take some of the pressure off me if I was to be much use to anyone and my GP agreed and signed me off work for a couple of weeks.
I ended up doing a living with less stress course with Maggies and that helped me to focus on the here and now and helped me appreciate what we have rather that the black future I was able to imagine that was actually worse in my imagination that reality. The conscious breathing exercises were great too when life decided it might be time for a new curveball but also when I needed a bit of help in being able to relax.
On the community we have quite a few groups for people in different positions, you might like to look at our Carers only forum and Family and friends forum both with a focus on friends in a similar position and if you have more direct questions on your husbands cancer then the Oesophageal cancer forum may well be helpful.
<<hugs>>
Steve
