My partner was referred by our GP to an AEC Unit one week ago, following a blood test displaying worrying reslts. Following a scan, the next day we were told that she had cancer of the liver that had spread to the lungs. It was inoperable and termial.
We were both completely devasted by this news and our world turned upside down. My partner was told that a biopsy would need to be taken before they could plan a course of action. The biopsy never took place because she has been too ill and too weak to undergo one.
Over a period of seven days, she has deteriorated rapidly and now only had a day or so to live.
I just don't know what to do and feel totally lost, panicky and scared.
I reached retirement age four months ago and we had saved and planned for an exciting future together. Now my world has ended and I can't imagine it without her. This has all been so cruel, unfair and unexpected.
Hi Gary and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your partner and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
Hi H54 and a warm welcome to you as well..... although I am sorry to hear about your mum.
Do have a look at the various support areas available that I have highlighted above..... there is support available to help you navigate this challenging time.
