Hello everyone
My husband has recently (last Thursday) been diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer which may have spread to the bone, we're not sure yet until we get the recent CT scan results and Biopsy. I know I have a million questions but I can't formulate them or put them together. I guess what I really need to know is whether it's too early to start making sure we have funeral arrangements made and what first steps other people have taken. I'm sure that over the coming weeks things will be explained but already it's keep me awake at night, worrying about what I should be doing as his husband whilst he concentrates on staying as fit and well as he can. I've had to keep away from the internet as well, there's so many awful, upsetting stories. I've just returned to work after being off to support him during the initial shock but to be honest it's not helping like I thought it would, in fact, I'm at work now typing this post because I can't concentrate on my work. I can't really take any more time off as although supportive I've had some personal sickness this year myself and one sickness absence away from capability. I know this probably wouldn't go down as sick but...I don't know, I'm sorry I'm rambling now. It feels good to type these thoughts out though and any comments or suggestions would be helpful.
Hi Beamish and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I've had different cancer diagnoses to your husband, I know what a big impact a diagnosis makes on the whole family.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend a couple for you to join. The first is the lung cancer group, as you'll then connect directly with others who have the same type of cancer as your husband and you can ask questions around treatment, etc.
The second is the carers only group which is a supportive place to share your worries and emotions with others who are looking after someone with cancer.
To join, just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your husband's diagnosis and into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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