Do I freeze my eggs

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Hi all I've recently been diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. Her2 positive. Before treatment I have to have multiple tests ie mri as I have a hump on my back which is full of dense tissue. My consultant fears it may be hiding more cancerous cells fingers crossed. The results show its normal. My main question to you all could you give me some advise or your opinions.

As I'm only 36 I have been referred to the life center to begin the process of having my eggs frozen (its always been my dream to become a mother). But due to my weight they have said I need to be passed to the rvi as the procedure would need heavier sedation, but they have a lengthy weight list of up to 3 weeks for the first appointment. I am so confused about what to do (bear in mind I was only diagnosed 2 weeks ago officially) everything seems so rushed.

My mum and sisters are trying to help with their view on what to do I'm just scared I will let them down if I make the wrong decision my heart says freeze my eggs for later use. But my mind goes to the worst places . Any alive or opinions are welcome.

Thank you all for reading

latchbrook 28 days ago

Hi Babyface and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and I was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 years ago.

The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join both the breast cancer and the breast cancer for under-50s groups as you'll then connect directly with others who may have had to make the same decision as you after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

Babyface 28 days ago in reply to latchbrook

Thank you for your message I will look at joining these groups. Thank you for your advice and support

KerryCake 27 days ago

Hi Babyface,

so sorry you find yourself in the club no one wants to join, and I can imagine how you must feel, but your in the right place for support.

Firstly can I stress to you that you will not let anyone down and would ask why you feel like that.
Newly diagnosed, reeling in shock, very young and very scared. It’s a lot to take in because the decisions you have to make are huge.
I already had my children when I first had breast cancer, and have just returned from hospital after mastectomy for a recurrance. The young lady of 37, in the bed next to me had actually had her eggs frozen, as she has the BRACA gene, and we talked about that. She was determined to have the option to have children and was happy she had done it, although her sister had decided not to. It’s really a personal choice and if you feel you don’t want to do because of the risks, or the type of procedure, it then you shouldn’t do it to please other people. Maybe you’re worried about letting your mum down by not making her a grandma? You should only do what you feel is right for you.

At my hospital I was offered psychological support, which I accepted. (I have other things going on and found it hard to cope). This really helped me, to talk to someone who was neutral and had my best interests in mind. The breast nurses can refer you as urgent for this.

As Anne has said, there are other forums that will offer more direct support, but I just wanted to reply and send you some reassurance. It’s a tough road and many decisions to make, but just take each day as it comes. I promise things do get a bit easier once you have a treatment plan in place. It’s not easy but you will get through it. Life is never the same, but it can be just as good if not better.

Keep positive and please, if you can, talk to your mum and sister about your fears and worries. They might be just as worried about saying the wrong thing as you. They sound like they want to help. It can be very hard for them, not knowing what to say and also dealing with their own fears and sadness that you are going through this.

Keep posting and wishing you lots of strength and hugs xxx