My best friend who is like family was diagnosed with several types of cancer before Christmas with a life expectancy of less than 12 months. She's not been able to have treatment and last week they told her she is now palliative care.
She's been very honest with me throughout. I'm now starting to struggle to remain positive for her. I feel like I'm grieving for her before she's end of life and then feel guilty, because obviously it's a whole lot worse for her.
Hi Jacqui456 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m sorry to read that your best friend has been told that she has less than 12 months to live and it must be an incredibly hard time for you both.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who have a loved one with an incurable diagnosis to discuss your emotions and get support.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
You might find this information from Macmillan on how to support someone if the cancer can't be cured helpful.
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