Hello
My husband has recently been treated for bladder cancer. He now needs further treatment as it is more aggressive than first thought. He cannot have his bladder removed due to other medical concerns so treatment of radiotherapy is the only option. I still work full time and have a very demanding job and work has been very supportive, giving me the time and space I need so I can support my husband. My main issue is that on the surface, I am calm, confident and well organised, but inside I’m struggling. I feel lost, afraid and exhausted. I have anxiety which I control well, but it’s starting to get the better of me. The focus has to be on my husband as he is the one that ill and facing real challenges, but I feel lost and like a failure for even feeling this way. I don’t know how to make this better. Any advice gratefully received, thank you
Hi,
Sorry to hear about what you're going through. Totally get how you're feeling and it's justified. Your husband is being looked after ....but who looks after you?
If your like me you'll just want to fix it for him and you can't. There are groups out there who can offer you support and you've made the first step being part of this community. Your Dr might know of carers support locally.
Make sure you reach out to loved ones and have some me time, if you don't look after yourself you can't look after your husband.
Take care
Sarah
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