I wanted to say hello!
I'm going to try to not moan too much because I know how hard a lot of people suffer bot just physically but emotionally because they have cancer.I have watched it take away a large part of my family. A grandparent,2 aunties,my dad and finally my daughter.
So I shouldn't have been surprised when it came knocking on my door on the 21st Feb.
After many "errors" by my GP surgery.Iwent for a biopsy 3 weeks ago.The consultant had a look and told me he wasn't going to do a biopsy, there was no point. he already knew what it was and it would only delay what he would have to do anyway-remove a "small" amount of my tongue.it was going to leave a hole,not very big and he would not stitch it up.
This monday I went in for the op.It turned out he had to take more than he had anticipated,he had also taken what he described as "a healthy margin" so there are many stitches.It is/was under my tongue ,in the place where the tongue joins to the bottom of my mouth.
I'm unable to speak-just noises,can't eat solids, only 3/4 tea spoons of fortisip constantly or i choke. as my tongue is just a big lump in my mouth now. But I'm not in any pain as I have no feeling in it.
The ward was busy,people were chatty,friendly, up beat...now I'm home,a big empty house,just me,my thoughts and my little chihuahua.I have nobody except my mum who is 85 who visits 2/3 afternoons a week.
Now I await a staging scan.
Hi
I had a different cancer to you, but can understand the lonely feelings. I think cancer can be a lonely journey for a lot of people even if you have lots of people around you. These forums help, if you join the section for your specific cancer you will be able to talk with people going through the same, i know the people in my section are so supportive to each other. Sending hugs. Xx
Thanks for the reply. I did look. but i couldn't find one.i guess it just falls into "others"
Hi I just had a quick look and the one for head and neck cancer is the one I think you want if it helps. Happy to chat though. Xx
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A warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community, although I am sorry to read your post. Bungle1 is quite right and here's the link you need to take you there;
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Best wishes - Brian.
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