My mum has been diagnosed with mucinous adenocarcinoma of the appendix with krukenberg tumours and omental disease with tumour PMMR with KRAS G12x mutation.
Physically she's ok at the moment and on chemo but mentally really struggling and in denial about her prognosis this is making her anxiety through the roof and she wont read any letter, answer phone calls or ask questions about her health or treatment she's cut off all her friends until she is better, she won't go anywhere or do anything until she is better.
She can be very angry and never wants to be on her own. How do my sister and I help her? We both feel the weight of it all and that its not allowed to be discussed. I wish for my mum to find some peace or acceptance with everything she is going through and to live as fully as she can for as long as she can.
Is it her journey alone to walk and navigate... Both me and my sister are exhausted now and very anxious about the future and how are mum will deal with things as things progress.
Hi RobustRabbbit and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and I'm sorry to read about your mum's diagnosis and how exhausted you and your sister are.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join either the carers only group, if you're your mum's carer, or the family and friends group, if you're not her carer. With both groups you'll connect directly with others who have a loved one dealing with cancer.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Being in denial is a common occurrence, and some people do not want to talk about their thoughts or feelings, or about the cancer and its treatment. They would rather just get on with life. They may find they cope better if they do normal, day-to-day things and do not talk about the cancer. You might find this information from Macmillan on how to talk to someone with cancer helpful in broaching the subject with your mum.
It would be great if you could put something about your mum's diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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