Hi, please ignore my formatting as I’m on my phone; apologies if it doesn’t look right.
I am still very much in a state of shock. My dad died in mid-April, and his funeral was just this week. We found out at the start of March that he had metastatic liver cancer which had spread to his lungs, and he lived for a further six weeks at home with support from my mum, family, carers, and district nurses.
The day before my dad’s passing, he was in a coma but would still flutter his eyes when you spoke to him. I was with my dad when he passed, and it was one of the most heartbreaking and painful things I’ve ever experienced. His body was so still, but his heart was pounding; you could physically see the movement. He also had the death rattle, and I was holding his hand when he passed.
I'm in my mid-thirties, but I do feel somewhat traumatised. I'm waiting for counselling and am in touch with my GP, and I’m already established on antidepressants. I’m not sleeping well and am experiencing nightmares.
I guess I just need to get this off my chest, I don’t know if I have posted in the correct area, so I apologise if it is wrong.
Hi Loveyoudad and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but I am ever so sorry to hear about your dad, my sincere condolences.
I know from my experience this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' journey can help you a lot.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to getting practical and emotional support you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same challenges.
To connect with the group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
