My son just got diagnosed with cancer of one tonsil and some lymph nodes on the same side, lucky it hasn't spread, I have 2 kids my son is 34 and my daughter is 17, they both have ASD and ADHD, I am so scared as I don't have a lot of help and I don't know how im going to split myself to be there for both as my son might have to have a feeding tube so will need to stay in for 2 nights, and I can't leave my daughter on her own over night but I need to be there for my son, im trying to stay as positive as possible but im so scared that something will go wrong and that he will suffer, I feel like crying all the time but im trying not to, I don't have many people to talk to so im finding things really hard, im so for going on, its just overwhelming.
Hi Caz777 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your son’s diagnosis and the challenges you are dealing with.
A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our…….
……. support groups.
These groups are a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your so and indeed yourself and the family you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
……. support group where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((Hugs))
