My partner of 7 years was diagnosed with bowel cancer 1 month ago, due to start chemo next week. On top of that she has been diagnosed with mild ADHD so you can imagine she can fixate on certain aspects of diagnose, treatment and the ADHD compounds fears that she has. Every day is a constant battle for me and her as she is constantly asking the same questions to me and others even though we all answer her questions. 90% of the time it is just me with her. Answering the same questions all the time is draining, i know i should be supportive and i am but sometimes i havent got room in my head for it all and go and take it out on the weights or go out.. i struggle with the frustration of not being able to take it all away and sometimes sound angry towards her because of it then im upset because i shouldnt be like that. Is it normal for partners to feel like this and if so what stratagies do others use to get through.
Hi Fudd and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I didn't have the same type of cancer as your partner I know how a cancer diagnosis can impact the whole family.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend a couple for you to join. The first is the bowel cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences about the type of cancer that your partner has. The second is the carers only group where you can discuss your emotions and get support from others who have a loved one living with cancer.
To join, just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your partner's diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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