Hi,sorry not really sure what to write, but found out that my elderly father who lives with us has metastatic liver cancer, threw a ct scan ,the consultant saw leisions and said he could tell what they were but they won’t do a biopsy,because of his age he’s 85 and he won’t be having chemo or radiotherapy ,as they said let him live out whatever time he has the best he can, this has left us very confused as we don’t really no what we’re left with,ie how best to help as myself and husband are his carers ,we also have 3 young children living at home, how best do we help him as he’s now struggling to get out of bed ,he physically cannot get his legs out or in by himself or go to the toilet alone as he cannot get up out the bed and within 2 weeks he’s gone completely down hill ,not hardly eating ,just his meal replacement drinks has any one else gone threw this or have any info on this awful illness as we really are all lost and confused right now sorry for the long post
Hi The Family and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m sorry to read about your father and it's natural that you want to know what to expect and how to help him.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions, share experiences and get support.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
For professional support you could give the Macmillan Support Line a call on 0808 808 0000. They're available every day of the week between 8am and 8pm.
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