Trying to navigate life with our recent news my mum was diagnosed at the end of January and with that we also found out she had a 9cm aortic aneurysm and we all just overwhelmed and that I it’s self brought more complications as chemo wasn’t an option that weekend she then had a minor heart attack and was in hospital for a week so no biopsy which she can’t get because of the blood thinners we have just came out of another hospital stay to the novavirrus so now just last week my mum has had her pet scan and next week we go to find out my mums choices.
What’s for the best and least aggressive as that’s what my mum wants. I have a sister who says she feels like that and has semi moved in with my mum as she’s on her own but I know she really wants my mum to have some treatment my mum has never been ill in her life so this is a huge shock to us all and I don’t want her to no longer be here but don’t want to see her struggle anymore than she’s beginning to.
How do we navigate all this?
Hi Westiepets and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our…….
……. support group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Carers only (if you are their caregiver)
Supporting someone with incurable cancer (If this is applicable)
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
