Hi, I'm sorry to say my wife lost a short fight with cancer, 3 weeks ago yesterday. It was a hard couple of months. I know people are going through the same thing and I am sorry. As we all say she was a lovely, great woman. My soul mate for 34 happy years(33 married). I know I was lucky to have that. We were not blessed with children and moved up to Northumberland over 7 years ago. My wife loved it up here, I loved are walks on the beaches and the costal paths. Still holding hands and kissing. It is her funeral tomorrow and I am scared, I don't know if I am ready for it. I have no family or friends up here. Some good friends are coming up and maybe one of my sisters. My Dad also died on Christmas day and I am finding all to much. Sorry for being that person. I don't really know what I'm saying.
Hello, GhostLoveScore,
I'm so sorry for your recent losses. What a lot to go through in such a short period. I'm not sure if I can provide you with any help, but I wanted to comment to let you know that you're not alone. People are generally great if you reach out - but you have to do the reaching out to let them know that you're there (I hope this is making sense).
You have just gone through significant losses. What you have experienced is not trivial. Of course the funeral seems daunting. Maybe try to slow things down and just deal with things an hour at a time? It's very early days.
I'm new here but I saw your message and felt that I couldn't just move away without saying something. I'm thinking of you and I hope knowing that provides some comfort.
Take gentle care of yourself.
Harri
Hi GhostLoveScore and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your wife, my sincere condolences.
This is such a challenging and stressful time for you but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' journey could help you a lot.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our…….
Bereaved Spouses and Partners Group
……. support group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others who are navigating the same journey.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
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