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I had breast cancer 6 years ago and have been on letrozole since still have 4 years left on them. On Christmas Eve I found out I had triple negative breast cancer. I start chemotherapy on next week. My problem is my daughter she seems not to be able to accept this. She as M/H issues and we can’t seem to find any help for her I haven’t let her go to any appointments with me as she get cross and will shout and carry on wherever she is. She’s in her twenties I’m now can’t take anymore. I just need someone to talk to her. But don’t know where to find the help she needs

The pony woman 5 months ago

I have some idea of how this is. I can't take my Husband or Daughter to any appointments as the worry of their reactions stops me from concentrating on what I am there for. To be honest however much you care about them, this behaviour can make you resent the fact that you have to spend so much time protecting them, when it would be good to have someone protect you during the hard times. Mental health services are hard to get and really do not hold the whole answer, but none the less you need some help to share the burden with you. Cancer is bad enough without having to run yourself ragged. How old is your Daughter? Mine has moved back home. She is 33 and means well but is so controlling.

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latchbrook 5 months ago

Hi Treacle10 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and I was diagnosed with TNBC in April 2022.

The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the breast cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions, share experiences and get support. There may be no one there who has the exact same problem as you, but they might have similar experiences and be able to suggest ways to cope.

To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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