Hi.
Mum’s lung cancer is back after seemingly having been zapped away by radiation. She is not allowed anymore radiation and her lung function (COPD) has ruled out surgery. She has oncology apt next week but I’m assuming she is too frail for chemo. My Dad was caring for her till Feb last year when he died unexpectedly. I am newly married (not young I hasten to add!), but my heart is aching all the while I am away from Mum and I know she’s lonely and sad. My husband and I live a three hour drive away. I lived with Mum for the first few months after Dad died but moved home after we set up carers coming in. I don’t know how long she may have left. My husband is very supportive and although would not want to move in with her himself he will support and visit often. He says I’m more likely to regret not moving back than regret moving back but I do worry about my career, marriage, social life, mental health etc….
Appreciate any wisdom! Thanks x
Hi Hazzabean and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your mum and the challenges you are dealing with.
A cancer journey like this can be a stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our…….
……. support group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
Thanks Mike. Mike was my Dad’s name. Good name 
Thanks for the directions x
