Hi I’ve recently found out I have a large kidney on my tumour. They have also found areas for concern in three places of bones plus the lymph node next to my kidney has similar characteristics to the tumour and is also large. I’ve since had a further scan to check my lungs and chest area and a biopsy to determine the type of cancer (6th December ). The experts met on Friday the 18th to discuss my case and treatment. This waiting is driving me around the bend as I still haven’t had an appointment through with the consultant. I’m getting so frustrated now waiting as nothing feels likes it’s moving . It’s now 2 1/2 months since the original Scan.
I have Bupa available through work and am Now wishing I had gone through them. I’ve looked into it during this time But felt like it was a backward step . How does everyone cope with the waiting?
Hi Apple16 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your ongoing diagnosis.
Navigating a cancer journey can be such a stressful and challenging time. I have been on my journey for over 25 years with two very rare types of blood cancer one being incurable. Waiting is an unfortunate part of the diagnostic journey….. back in 1999 it took over a year, 6 biopsies and a CT scan to eventually find the truth…… thankfully not all cancers take the same time.
As to how you deal with it?….. To be totally honest and this will sound very simplistic, some would even say naive..... The one thing I learned very early on in my 24+ years living and being treated for my 2 cancers was that I could throw ALL the worry and stress I could collect in the world at each situation and all this effort would actually make no difference what’s so ever to what I am told and what may happen in the future....... but will have a big effect on how I will mentally deal with it when issues comes along. park the stress, worry when you actually have something concrete to worry about and look to do things that you enjoy and distracts you.
Getting support from people who have walked or are walking the ‘exact same' journey can help you a lot.
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The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms)…… but I can see that you have already found our dedicated Kidney Cancer Support Group.
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Thank you for taking the time to reply. Sounds like you have had a long journey.
i wish I could shut my brain off. Being busy definitely helps, its the quiet times when i have time to think that are difficult . I just feel so frustrated with the waiting and all the unanswered questions
During the quit times when the space between the ears goes into overdrive have a note book next to you (not your phone) and start to log down all the questions you need answers for……
((hugs))
Although don't yet have a diagnosis, I can relate. Been bouncing around in the NHS system so far 5 or 6 GP appts, A&R appt and awaiting CT scan. All are obvs with the NHS but also have access to private and unsure when (and if) it makes sense to "hop" to the private world. Currently assuming I will do so if/when I have a more concrete diagnosis. Stay in touch, keen to see how you get on. And yes, I hear you, the waiting, even for a day is nuts. I have a high stress / demanding job and can't function because of the ambiguity.
It’s all the unanswered questions isn’t it! From what I can gather once you have an official diagnosis it’s easy to move to private although at my last appt they did say everything will move fast from the next appt as everything should have been put in place behind the scenes . I got my appt through yesterday for monday 6th Jan and feel so relieved to have it . I hope everything comes through for you soon
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