Hi,
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
I found a lump in my breast 3 weeks ago and yesterday attended a breast clinic where the consultant told me she was very concerned about my lump. she did a ultrasound, mammogram and biopsy and said it is around 2cm in size and that from her past experience and the way the lump has formed, the way it reacted to the biopsy and how it felt when she took the biopsy she is 99.9% sure it's cancer. I asked her if she thought it could be anything else and she said no. I now have 2 weeks to wait for the results and prognosis. I appreciated her honesty greatly but have now had a completely sleepless night worrying and having awful intrusive thoughts about it having spread or being a secondary cancer. Is it normal that I can't turn off the intrusive thoughts and that I can't stop imagining being told it's everywhere and I've got 3 weeks to live and won't see my children grow up? I don't know how I'm going to sleep for the next 2 weeks or stop the negative thoughts. I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you in advance.
Hi LQ2024
Welcome to the community and I am sorry to hear that you are facing a breast cancer diagnosis. I know it isn't easy but try not to lose hope as breast cancer is very treatable these days. When you feel up to it why not join the breast cancer forum where you will get plenty of support from the ladies and the few gents on there, you do n't have to wait for your cancer diagnosis to be confirmed to join. Here's the link to the forum: Breast cancer forum . Also if you'd like phone the helpline on 0808 808 0000 to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
Like I told Wickham11 I was diagnosed with breast cancer over four years ago and after having treatment and surgery I made a full recovery.
Wishing you the best of luck with your results and do let us know how you got on.
Best wishes
Daisy53
Trying2bstrong I really hope that you continue to recover well and any treatment you might need is successful. I appreciate your contact so much and will definitely update you when I find out my results. Please let me know how you get on too. Here to listen any time x
Hello LQ2024,
I feel this so deeply- I am having the exact same thoughts as you and the tears come on quickly and I don’t seem to be able to control my emotions at all. I’ve spent a long time today with my close family some of whom have also been through cancer in their lives and they’ve encouraged me to voice all of my darkest thoughts and most upsetting worries. I’ve done that and it really has helped to calm the intrusive thoughts. Talking them through out loud with a group of people hasn’t given me any answers but it has just settled my brain a bit. I feel calmer, less on the verge of a panic attack and it definitely helped to say the awful thoughts out loud to someone. I don’t know if there are people you could do this with and who have previous cancer experience too as this has really helped me.
It’s still an awful shock though isn’t it and I think we need to be kind to ourselves and allow ourselves time to process and feel generally sad and rubbish x
Hello wickham11,
yes I’ve also been quit open with my thoughts with those around me, it’s helped a little but I suppose until I know the facts there’s not much reassurance I’m able to receive. I’m terrified about my appointment next week and what will be discussed although I wish it was happening tomorrow at the same time!
finding it hard to leave the house at the minute, I just wish I could wake up from this nightmare and go back to my life as it was last week
wishing you all of the luck with your appointment, they say it gets easier once we know what we’re dealing with xx
LQ2024 I completely agree. What I’d give to not have this hanging over me! I still haven’t even had my appointment through so I have no idea when I’ll be getting my results but it can’t be any time soon! I’d pay a lot of money to get them tomorrow and stop the torturous thoughts.
let’s try to keep strong until our results are given to us and then let me know what they say at your appointment. Wishing you so much luck. Stay strong x
Oh I hope you get that letter soon to confirm your appointment! Yes I would also pay a lot of money to have my results right now, just to start to be able to process everything and regain some control over my health!
yes please do let me know how you get on, I’m thinking of you
not sure if this is helpful but I found it a good, light and insightful watch on Ted talk:
Jami Buchanan McNees: Beautiful Cancer / How to Overcome a Cancer Diagnosis
stay strong and stay focused…I have to keep being grounded to stop intrusive thoughts taking over my day.
much love xx
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