Hello All, does anyone have any experience in trying for children after a cancer diagnosis?? I'm 5 years post diagnosis and have asked my Breast Cancer Nurse many times to find out information about IVF, Surrogacy etc for cancer patients and just get the impression I should just be grateful I'm alive and move on! There is life after cancer. My age is against me, 46 but was diagnosed at 40 and watched my older sister battle cancer for 6 years before my diagnosis, so not being the right time to think about children is an understatement! Surrogacy would obviously be the safest option for me, but apart from legal help, there isn't much put there to get help to find a surrogate, other than to go abroad. I'm also investigating adoption, but there are many barriers including a cancer diagnosis and thankfully a lack of needy children. Does anyone have any insight into any of this that could help me?? All the very best to all you Em x
Hi PumpKinEm, and welcome, my eldest daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer just before her 40th birthday, not curable, but treatable, before she had surgery, Rt and chemo, she was given a suppression drug to protect her ovaries from the chemo, unfortunately she had a tough time with chemo and it was stopped, but treatment had worked, she was in remission, but knew it would come back, anyway just 31 months after treatment she had twins, naturally, PS, this was 12 years ago, my daughter had a recurrence 4 months ago, had RT, surgery 2 days ago and thanks to advancements in treatments, her treatment this time round will be done to cure.
I'm sorry I have no experience of IVF or surrogacy, I have a good friend who's been fostering for many years, and tells me they are struggling to find homes for the little ones, often finding homes 100 miles away, my best wishes and hopes for a happy outcome for you
Eddie xx
Hi PumpkinEm and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community.
Navigating the post treatment world can be such a stressful and challenging time but getting support from people who have walked or are walking the ‘exact same' journey can help a lot. (I have a completely different cancer).
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to try and direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend that you look to join and put up your own post in our dedicated Breast Cancer Support Group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others with a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support. To connect in with the group please click on the link below…….
……. and once the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
You can then introduce yourself to the group by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
Hello :-)
I was first diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in 2012 at 35yrs old (turned 36 when started chemo), due to having 2x step-children (don't even live with us), we weren't classed as a 'childless couple', so couldn't have egg freezing on NHS! Only pay for IVF. We decided not to and just get on with treatment.
Two years after treatment, we were allowed to 'try' and I miraculously got pregnant with our beautiful daughter that I had in summer 2016 - thought I was going through early menopause (as predicted!) but turned out I was 10wks pregnant! LOL!
Anyway, not sure if that's any help, but there's hope.
Praying you find a solution that works well for you xoxo
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