Recently diagnosed 7 days ago

Hi Helzbelz91 and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your dad. A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey so different experiences.

This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.

The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your dad and indeed yourself and the rest of the family you may benefit from joining and posting in our……

 Carers only

 Supporting someone with incurable cancer

……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.

You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.

Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support from all the family.

Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))

Thank you so much for your reply. I will have a look at the groups you sent and will look into the maggies and macmillan local to me. I appreciate your response. Thank you 

Hello Helzbelz. I am sorry to hear about your Dad. If it's any help, my late son had stomach cancer, not diagnosed till it was terminal. He was given 2 to 5 months. After about 2 months they gave him one of those stents to help empty his stomach as he could no longer eat without being sick. He got somewhat better and lived almost another 6 weeks, feeling (until the very end) better than before the stent as it made eating & drinking easier. It's devastating news, but the stent should make him more comfortable.

Hi sorry i havent replied. Sadly my dad passed away in hospital at 12am. They did attempt to do the stent on wedneaday but it was unsuccessful twice 

How sad for you and your mum. I wish you strength to cope.

Hi Helzbelz91 I am ever so sorry to hear about your dad, my sincere condolences to you and your family.

Getting support from people who are navigating the exact same journey can help a lot so do consider joining our Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group. support group.

There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer support.

The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service will provide  practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

((hugs))