New to all this and so scared

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Hello I wanted to post in this group to talk to people .my fiance found out last week he has liver metautas (not sure how to spell this sorry ) he been poorly a while and not sure where the primary cancer is ,he is too unwell for biopsy and chemo and trying to gain his strength .he has two tumours one on his liver one on his back the cancer has spread to his spleen stomach liver .waiting for a ultra sound scan as a outpatient .was took in hospital last week with possible liver failure and so poorly . Just want to speak to people to help me understand everything ,if he doesn't get string wnought they have said 2 months .we are in total shock and it's heartbreaking to see him poorly .any advice would be greatly appreciated 

Thankyou x

  • Hi  and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your fiancés diagnosis.

    A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.

    This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your fiancé and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……

         Carers only

    and our…..

         Supporting someone with incurable cancer

    ……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

    To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

    When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.

    You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

    It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.

    Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • I can't give advice, unfortunately  i joined myself 2 day ago just to rant and talk to people not in  my family .   But I am a good ear to bend