Hi everyone
just wanted to introduce myself….. I’m matty
my partner was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and I’ve been trying hard to put her mind at ease but god damn its hard … I didn’t know anything about this cancer then I started reading about it literally minutes ago after the mrs sent me a link to one that isn’t what she has, so I thought I’d correct her but wanted a little bit of information before I got it all wrong and now I’m scared to even tell her she’s looking at the wrong type
yeah I know it’s hard for her and she’s not handling it well but how the hell can I tell her that it’s not the ductile she’s been reading about
Hi Matty72 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot…….
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms)……. I do see that you have already joined our supportive Breast cancer support group…… but you may also want to join our Triple negative breast cancer support group as well.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your partner and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
……. support group where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
Hi missy tbh I’ve refrained from doing any research ….. that doesn’t mean I don’t care or not interested but I feel that everyone’s journey is different and even though it’s the same ride there’s many routes, everyone’s experience of treatment is unique and how they react to medication too
no offence to my mrs but we’re quite different….. she’s the type that will read the paperwork with tablets and suffer all the side effects whereas I’m a suck it and see type, admittedly I’ve not been diagnosed so feel like a bit of an outsider and yes I’ve had experience with cancers as I lost both parents (which pains me to say) but macmillan were fantastic for them even if I wasn’t
slightly ot I have my own physical and mental health problems so maybe it’s just my way of dealing or not dealing with things that could come across as cold but believe me I wouldn’t wish this thing on anyone…… (well maybe some) but certainly not people that don’t deserve it
as for which type WE have not been told yet only that it’s triple negative and (advised…. Typically she didn’t listen 
) not to look it up by the consultant/surgeon
we’ve just had the mri done this week and see the consultant in a fortnight but when we first got an appointment for a pain in her breast was told that cancers are not painful then after the mammogram told that they had found a 7mm lump that they biopsy’d then another appointment up at guys but the letter sent to the gp states that a 2cm lesion was felt ……. WTH that’s 3 times larger in less than a month
