Hi, I have just had a message from my friend who was being operated on yesterday to remove part of her oesophagus in order to clear her cancer. The message says that they had to stop the operation because they found the cancer strongly attached to the aorta and thorax and that she has been placed on palliative care now. I do not know how to reply. I am usually flippant in such cases but heard on the radio recently that cancer sufferers sometimes just want someone to acknowledge how bad they are feeling. I have no idea what I should say. Sorry to hear your news, sounds useless. Any suggestions?
Hi ChittyChitty and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm so sorry to read that your friend has been told that her cancer is no longer curable and I can totally understand why you want to know what to say, etc.
The online community is divided into different support forums so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer forum which is for friends and families of people with an incurable diagnosis.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
You might also find this information from Macmillan on how to talk to someone with cancer helpful.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
