Husband

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Hi everyone

I'm new to this site and want some help as I don't know what to do.

I don't know where to start on this, I'm worried sick about my husband. He had a stool sample done last week to check if everything is okay he had received a text message from our doctors asking him to ring them..so he did ring them and they had said they is some traces of blood in his sample and he got to have an colonoscopy done so it's been fast tracked and he having it on 22nd of this month. He just been in rehab for alcohol he came home and a few days later he was very sick and couldn't keep off the toilet so he thought he had food poisoning and put it down to that. He was putting the sample off for some time while been in rehab and he done it and it came back as blood in sample as I mentioned above. He been getting really bad abdominal pains and can't keep off the toilet he is crying in pain and he got a lump near his anal part (sorry to much information) he has lost a stone and half within weeks. He is always tired and he is drained, he has got most symptoms to bowel cancer as it runs in the family he lost his mam to bowel cancer four year ago..to think of it he been having pains for over a year and doctors was fobbing him off with tablets thinking it was his ibs.

Today he has been none stop to the toilet and crying in pain do you think he should go to hospital and ask for help. I'm just worried sick about him.

latchbrook 1 month ago

Hi Browneyedgirl

I'm sorry to read that your husband is in so much pain. As it's the weekend and he won't be able to get in touch with his GP, he could ring NHS111 to get advice.

As the online community is divided into different support forums I'm going to recommend that you join the bowel cancer forum, not because I think this is what your husband has, but because you'll then connect directly with others who have had colonoscopies.

To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

I hope he is soon pain free.

"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

Browneyedgirl 1 month ago in reply to latchbrook

Thank you for your reply I've sent a request to join

latchbrook 1 month ago in reply to Browneyedgirl

Has your husband phoned 111?

"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"

Bamo 1 month ago

Oh bless you, I can feel your panic in your post. It sounds scary but my strong advice is not to delay anything and it sounds like the pain is increasing for your husband? In my experience ( too much this past 1.5 years!), ringing 111 with these symptoms, you'll be told to present to A & E in most likelihood. That's always awful but he'll at least ( eventually) get pain relief/ rehydration, etc, and on my many trips to A & E I also got CT abdomen done too. So pleased his colonoscopie has been fast tracked but it feels like an eternity doesn't it? These can also be issues post alcohol use possibly but there is first line family history too so your right to be cautious. Thinking of you both & keep in touch x

Browneyedgirl 1 month ago in reply to Bamo

Thank you so much, the pain as eased today hopefully it stays like that until he has the tests done, it's awful seeing him in pain..I've lost my dad to cancer and my mother in law and now I'm watching my husband go through it.. thank you so much for your lovely comment..I will be in touch. Yesterday I cried my eyes out I'll be strong x

Bamo 1 month ago in reply to Browneyedgirl

Ah, been wondering how you were both doing between my usual domesticites and teenagers! Good to hear the pain has lessened, and everything crossed it stays that way. If doesn't, don't be afraid to get help, it's essential. I know the fear too after watching loved ones go through things, I lost my wonderful mother way too young within 4 months. But we do cope, we have no other option. And hopefully this won't be the situation for your husband. But, if it is, remember the sooner the medical team know what's happening, the sooner they will treat him which is essential & they don't waste time which is so reassuring. Cry when you need to, it helps to release what's sitting there!. Keep in touch, thinking of you x