Desperate for help

Hi Firefly71 and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis.

A cancer diagnosis like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.

This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your partner and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our…..

   Carers only 

and our

   Supporting someone with incurable cancer

……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.

You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.

Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((Hugs))

Hi Firefly71

I am so sorry to hear about your poor partner and what you are both going through.  Although, as you say, it is the cancer that is making him/her angry it still hurts that you try your best, so you have made a good decision to join this wonderful community that is full of kind and caring people who will be prepared to just listen and give you the support you need.

You don't say what the cancer is, but there are specific forums on here for specific cancers (mine is Head Neck and Throat cancer forum) if you join the one specific to your partners cancer you will get more practical help I am sure from people who are suffering from or has someone in their lives who are suffering from the same type of cancer as your partner.  Just being able to voice how you feel, will give you some comfort.

Thinking of you and your partner and sending hugs.

Hazel x

Thank you so much

Hi

Thank you for replying. My partner has lung and kidney cancer. He's had all chemo ect and sadly there is no more they can do. He's sleeping a lot and barely eating. Only getting out of bed for the loo. He's scared and confused. His mental health is deteriorating too.. 

I will have a good look through the forums. I'm glad I posted here today I already feel the support..

Thank you again.