My husband has colon cancer, it's been found in the early stages....we have a young family, our youngest two are 9 andc10...we are 51 and 53....
I don't feel like I'm supporting him well enough, he's a big character, and has turned to drink as he's scared....he keeps having out bursts of tears and strong emotions, which of course is understandable...he's recently had an mri scan, and we hear tomorrow, what the plan is...
I just want to carry on as normal especially in front of the kids, until we know the outcome of that....but I'm really struggling to hold it together...I need to be strong for him and the kids, and I'm terrified of the future...I'm kind of shutting him out, just when he needs me most...I really don't know what to do or feel...any advice would be so very welcome, as I've no one to talk to about all this...thank you! X
Hi Jojojojo and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis and your ongoing concerns.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our……
Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer
……. support group. This group is a safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your husband and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
……. support group where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [ Black - Click to Join - Banner ] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
Still waiting for the call 
xx
