Hi all,
Here for support, understanding, getting word vomit out in the middle of the night.
My mum is now on end of life care, we don’t anticipate her staying with us much longer. Her journey with cancer has been a very long hard rollercoaster. My father and I both know that she is too tired to fight anymore and we can’t ask her to.
I think I’m still in shock that it’s actually happening. She’s been sick for so many years now.
I go from numb, to ‘fine’, to tears. I have a 3.5 yr old so I don’t get much time to feel too deeply as she takes a lot of my energy! Which is a blessing at times, she is a wild child who distracts me from thinking about what is coming.
Im scared of the time coming and having to talk to her about why grandma isn’t here any more. She understands a lot and she will ask question's. Any advice for navigating that would be very welcome.
Thank you for reading
Hi Stars101 and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [ Black - Click to Join - Banner ] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
