Positive SLNB stage 3 melanoma

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Hi all my husband (37) noticed a mole had changed in January. Had that and two others removed in February (3 separate procedures all on his back). He then had a wle and slnb at the end of may and we have just been told the lymph node biopsy was positive (7mm). It has also broken the barrier of the node and entered the surrounding fa that was also removed.

He is now being referred to oncologist for treatment - likely immunotherapy. And also waiting for a full body scan. We are also still waiting for the follow up report and braf test results which will determine the treatment path. But we were told there will be a further 4 week wait until we get the oncologist appointment. Is this normal?

Given how aggressive the nodular melanoma seems to be (was given a metasis rate of 8) we are really concerned that it’s been growing and spreading since at least January and to wait another month seems a really long time. Keen to hear other experiences and if there is anything we can do to speed it up. We have private health care through work which we have not yet activated but does anyone know if that would speed things up at this point or would it just confuse things and potentially delay treatment? With two very young children at home this is obviously a very worrying time for us all so grateful for any advice. Many thanks in advance.

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis. 

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  • Hi, I was given my nodular melanoma diagnosis on the nhs and then decided to go private and yes it did speed things up. Im on immunotherapy and I’m sure I would be receiving the exact same treatment on the nhs but for scans and results private does seem a lot faster.

    Hoping all goes well for your husband and feel free to ask me any questions.