Friend has had a diagnosis of Multiple Myeloma

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Hi there

one of my close friends has recently been diagnosed with multiple myeloma and told she has about 3 years. I know this isn’t cast in stone but I’m struggling with losing yet another friend to cancer. I want to be able to support her boys, she’s a single mum. The boys are adults but the middle son is autistic and she is his carer. Does anyone have advice, support that they can point me in the direction of please. We live around 2 hours drive from each so I can’t just pop round but we are friends who met online over 20 years ago and well she’s just always been there. And at some point she’s just not going to be.

thanks for reading

  • Hi  and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your friend’s diagnosis.

    A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.

    This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your friend and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our 

    Family and Friends

    Supporting someone with incurable cancer

    ……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

    To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [ Black - Click to Join - Banner ] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

    When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.

    You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

    It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

    You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.

    Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.

    Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

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  • Thank you Mike for your reply. Just read your journey and what a journey. So pleased you are still here. All the best Sam

  • We all do what we need to do to keep ahead of the beast.

    and told she has about 3 years

    was this information from a Heamatologist…… I just say this as although like my NHL MM is incurable but on the whole is treatable.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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