New to the community and I can’t seem to stop crying

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My husband passed on 30th May and I can’t stop crying. I have a lot of support from children and have grandkids to take my mind off it but when I am alone I cry all the time

how long should this be the case? I just miss him so much. He was the other half of me. He knew me so well it was as if we were psychic sometimes. I know he wouldn’t want me to be crying all the time but I am struggling to cope to be honest. I just want to be with him. We were together for 25 years (second marriage for both of us). I just can’t seem to cope without him. I can’t sleep in our bed. We had both been sleeping downstairs on our separate sofas for the last 6 months as he didn’t sleep well and didn’t want to keep waking me up but I couldn’t sleep in our bed alone and it is even harder now. 

  • Hi  and welcome to the Macmillan Community but ever so sorry to hear about your husband, my sincere condolences to you and your family.

    A journey like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' challenges can help you a lot.

    I do see that you have already joined and put up a post in our dedicated Bereaved Spouses and Partners Group support group, this us a safe place to connect with others.

    You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides practical information, emotional support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.

    Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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