Husband has GIST, gone from ‘very early stage’ to ‘life limiting and incurable’ within 2 months

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Hi, i feel we’ve gone from 0-100 in a small space of time. Husband (aged 60) had emergency bowel resection at the end of Oct 2023, then a week before Xmas we were told they found GIST in the section they removed. Had to have a CT scan on Xmas Day, so there was no hiding that from our family. Cue waiting a stressful few weeks for results. Phoned twice to try and get results - Mid-Feb told ‘no signs of cancer’ in the CT or PET scan. Great relief, just told they might want to treat with targeted therapy drug as a ‘back up’. Mid March they finally confirmed this, it would be Imatinib daily for 3 years. Ok, not great, but relief that they were offering a ‘mopping up’ as they described. At that appointment I said my husband was still getting some pain in the stomach area, Dr said it might still be the wound recovery, but he’d get another CT scan just to ‘get a baseline’ prior to starting Imatinib. Finally started the drug mid April. Then called in for another appointment a week later to be told the latest scan showed spread to the liver and some surrounding stomach areas, this was now ‘incurable but treatable’ and ‘life limiting’. When asked, the consultant guessed 5-10 years. Obviously a huge shock, and frustration at the speed of growth while we were waiting to just see the consultant and start the drug. Current metastases not operable but we were told other areas often ‘pop up’ in this type of cancer, so other new areas ‘might’ be operable. 
apologies for the length of this, but it all feels crazy. Husband had another scan a week ago, this will see whether Imatinib is doing anything. We find out mid-July.

It’d be lovely just to feel part of a support group who ‘get it’. Thank you. 

  • Hi   and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis.

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  • Thank you for your reply and signposting to resources, I’ll have an explore Slight smile