My dad was recently diagnosed with cancerous brain tumours. Non curable he is having chemo.
the doctor asked did he want to know time scales and he didn’t but it feels like he has given up he just stays in bed or on the sofa and sleeps a lot. His first chemo two and a half weeks ago did impact him quite a lot he has had previous chemo but only “sweep up “ chemo two years ago after lung cancer which was treated fully
I know he is thinking there is no point if the end is the same outcome but I think the treatment would work better and give him longer if he had a more positive approach and tried to exercise more he is literally just sat watching tv and sleeping all day he hasn’t lost his appetite which is good but then he is just sat around eating
He is 70 and needs a hip replacement so that is impacting on what movement he can do but basically he seems to have lost hope and has no go in him
sorry for rambling post when I could have made it shorter just want him to see he can still have a good quality of life I’ve not even started dealing with it myself as yet but mine can wait I need to make sure he is ok first
Hi Hay2 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your dad. A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our……
……….. support group. This group is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your dad and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Carers only (if you are his caregiver)
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [ Black - Click to Join - Banner ] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
