Due to hair loss through chemotherapy, I have arranged for a hairdresser to come to my home today and shave it all off for me. She is also the Mum of one of my son’s friends, so known to us all. My sons are 14 & 16.
After talking to a few people, I decided to ask my boys if they’d like to be involved, so they feel included. My younger son said yes and my elder said he didn’t mind, and would be there if I wanted him to.
My husband is concerned that seeing me so upset during this event will not be good for them, and will stay with them forever.
He spoke to a friend who agreed with him …. Is this just a men v women opinion on things?!
Any comments / experience would be welcomed. Thank you 
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My husband is concerned that seeing me so upset during this event will not be good for them, and will stay with them forever.
Hi. What did you do?
I have a friend who did just this but she was able to smile and laugh through it all so the kids were fine. If you cried and blubbed then your husband might be right..
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
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