Hello everyone
My mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in both lungs, breast and possible pelvic area(currently waiting on results).
See seems ok in herself just tired.
my heads in a spin as she’s always been a healthy and active person working 2 jobs.
What do you think the treatment options could be or the possible outlook?
looked up so many things on the internet and it’s just exploded my brain with what can and can’t be done
Any help would be much appreciated
Hi Kevin85 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot.
I have been on my incurable cancer (different type of cancer) journey for over 24 years and I have been to stage 4 and back and the one thing I quickly learned was that the internet is just not your friend at the moment….. you need to wait to see what her clinical team says…… as for what her treatment will be and what can or can’t be done time will tell……… we are not not medical professionals so are not in a position to say…… but talking with others about their experiences can help a lot.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our dedicated……
…… support groups. These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Family and Friends support group…
If you are going to be her caregiver you may want to join our Carers only support group….
….. and depending on what her journey looks like you may want to look at our Supporting someone with incurable cancer support group…
……. as these support groups will connect you with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page and putting
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
