Hi,
I’ve joined here in the hopes of feeling a little less alone.
Im 21 years old and my mum has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. It’s something none of us were expecting and it’s hit hard.
She has had a surgery and now waiting for further treatments.
Im in my final year of University and I’m finding it really hard to see my friends just carry on with life. I know that sounds selfish but my family feels stuck in time, and I feel like I’m stuck watching people just not care about us.
I used to be a really empathetic person, but recently i’ve found myself getting angry when someone complains about really mundane things.
I worry that I’m stuck in this nightmare and its never going to end, and at the same time I wish i could just take this from my mum and carry it on my shoulders, she has been through enough already.
I guess I was hoping that on here there might be some people in my shoes too? I feel so alone with what I’m feeling and I feel like my friends just won’t and can’t understand me. Just to know there are people that are going through this or have got through this right now is what I think I need.
I’m trying to get myself in the best place possible to help my mum out in every way I possibly can.
Hi Lessa and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but you will find getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help a lot.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum abd indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our
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Carers only (that I do see you have already joined)
…….support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Your University will have pastoral/support services…… do talk with them.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
