My husband has pancreatic cancer.

Hi Pamandgok and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your husband’s diagnosis. 

A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type and support challenges will help a lot (I have a totally different type of cancer)

The New to Community is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is divided into dedicated Cancer Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you join and post in our dedicated

Pancreatic cancer

…… support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.

As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your husband and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our 

Carers only 

and

Supporting someone with incurable cancer

support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.

To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)

You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.

Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.

My husband has had 4 chemo treatments for stage IV pancreatic cancer. It has been 12 weeks since diagnosis. He has been in and out of the hospital 5 times. He was blacking out. He had a TIA stroke and Saturday went into complete heart block requiring a pacemaker after an 80 percent blocked artery and two stents last week. It keeps running through my head, why are we doing this? He is spending the time left, sick and in the hospital. He wants to continue chemo. I am emotionally and physically exhausted. I watch him not being able to engage in life or even fight for the time he wants the chemo to give him. I have seen the miracles in our life through the years but am lost to believe in one for tbis.

Hi Dogslovebest and welcome to the community.

So sorry to hear about your husband.

You may want to consider linking in with the support groups I have highlighted above.