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Hi ArtyNov 

Welcome to our community though always a little sorry to see anyone join our very special family.

You are so right that cancer has a habit of getting to everyone and it might help you to look at your feelings when someone has cancer as that might be helpful in understanding how both your brother and you might be feeling. 

You might like to look in to our Family and friends forum  where you will find people in a similar situation. One problem I found in myself was the classic of not taking care of myself until I came close to burning out and then I found our local Maggies centre.

<<hugs>>

Steve

ArtyNov said:

Anything at all would be helpful if anyone in same predicament. I want to help but also don’t want to intrude 

I haven't had the same cancer as your wife but I know that with mine I needed a lot of care and I know how carers can be invisible to the professionals. It's al about the patient. Your brother sounds a well organised kind of chap so maybe one of the most helpful things you could do is to get him out for a day, once a week. Just chew the fat and have some time away from clinical things. I talk a lot about this with carers and once they get over the imaginary "hump" of abandoning their care it's a hugely revitalising and intimate event. Would your brother be able to think of himself and give himself some space in this way?