My mum has been recently diagnosed with cancer and, because of the spread and her age, there is nothing they can do for her. I feel guilty because I have been busy working over the years and not visited as often as I should. My brother and sister are much closer to her then I am, not that that worries me.
My sister is living with her at the moment while she reaches her end. My brother visits a lot but I'm working all sorts of hours and places. I call in when I can. She has carers calling 4 times a day and now has lots of pain relief sorted to help her rest properly. It's been so quick and near the end so quickly I'm struggling. I do look at it pragmatically as we all have to go. She is so thin.
Anyway thanks for letting me waffle.
Hi YorkieNell64 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is a supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your mum has been diagnosed with incurable cancer and I can only begin to imagine how hard this must be for the whole family.
Feeling guilty is quite common and it might help you to have a look at Macmillan's information on your feelings when someone has cancer.
The online community is divided into different support forums so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer forum which is for anyone who has someone with an incurable diagnosis to discuss their emotions and give and receive support.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any problems negotiating the community just reply to me and I'll be pleased to help if I can.
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