Just approaching first anniversary of my lovely man’s passing . So very painful. Can’t do Xmas ! But feel selfish ! So shocked at how deep the pain is . Thought I’d been doing well …just so sad ! Hope everyone is coping at this time of the year . When folk say ‘how are you’ my default answer is ‘fine how are you’ So difficult to say that it’s difficult. But feel I have to get on with life and show my kids I am ok. Otherwise they’ll worry and I can’t do that to them.
Hi Elephant21 anniversaries can be hard and celebration times like Christmas can be especially difficult.
You may find it helpful to join and introduce yourself to our dedicated Bereaved Spouses and Partners Group as it a place where you will connect with others navigating this difficult time.