Hi everyone, I joined because 2 weeks ago my elderly mum was diagnosed lung cancer , they found it accidentally after a heart attack in March. They said they can’t do the stent for the bunch block and tries to stabilise her with medication, unfortunately a scan in may showed a no dual in the upper left of her lung and another scan in September showed the left lung has a large mass now that is primarily cancer.
they can’t give her any medication to slow it down because of her heart they also can’t do a biopsy or any other test to diagnose what kind of cancer. The only thing they said is her heart will take her out first . They couldn’t tell us anything and just sent us home.
im not in the best health myself but im the youngest of 7, I had to tell my whole family and I’m still doing my best to look After my mum even though I have my own family and one with severe disabilities that needs one to one 24/7.
I’ve not cried .. everyone else has been crying on my shoulder at the news.. looking to me to comfort them and answer questions.
I have to make sure everything is in order for her helping her make a will and funeral plans .. selling up everything in her home after to pay for her headstone and wake.
now my mum has me organising a party for over 100 family members to celebrate her life before she dies..
I just feel numb and a bit overwhelmed
Hi Moijo23 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm very sorry to read that your mum has been given an incurable cancer diagnosis and it sounds like you have a lot to deal with.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is for carers, friends and families of people with a terminal diagnosis to discuss their emotions as well as practical issues.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any problems finding your way around the site I'd be happy to help.
((hugs))
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