Hi
I've just joined here and I'm going to try my best in putting into words how I am feeling
In the space of a week we have been informed my mother in law has cancer uterine cancer then the following day we was told it has spread to her liver and lungs then yesterday was told it's in her lymph nodes and in there words it's everywhere.
Today they have transferred her to a nursing care home all normal meds stopped they said there was no treatment available.
Her appetite is basically none existance and she's not drinking alot
The hospital initially said she has less than 6 months however it's spread to lymph nodes etc they have said to expect less.
I know noone can give you an exact prognosis but please does anyone have any experience or knowledge on what time we may have left with her.
My husband is heartbroken about his mum as they had a poor relationship however the last 2 years they have been rebuilding it and it feels like it's all being ripped away so quickly
I don't know how to support him or her everything just feels so overwhelming
I'm sorry none of this probably makes sense
Hi Mumof4xx and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mother in laws diagnosis and prognosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' challenges can help a lot.
I see that you have already joined our supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancer support group. This us a safe place to connect with others navigating the exact same challenges. The chat about the practical and emotional challenges of supporting both your mother in law but also your husband.
To connect with the group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above then once the group page opens you can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00.
This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
