I'm new to this my sister has stage 4 cancer and been given a prognosis of 15 months to 4 years. She asked me to take care of my niece when she passes but has suddenly changed her mind stating that she is thinking of leaving her with distant relative. This is devastating and has broken my heart l don't feel she is thinking rationally about what's best emotionally for her daughter. These distant relatives have money but are not my nieces close family we would lose her completely no matter what they are telling my sister. What can l do to make her see sense
Hi Bettb and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your sisters diagnosis and to hear about your concerns.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who may be dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help a lot.
The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family and friends you may benefit from joining and posting in our Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
