Hi, I’m not sure where to start out what to do. My mum is in hospital with liver metastases, following bowel cancer a couple of years ago. We (my sister and I) took her to A&E due to severe pain. Turns out she has an obstruction that they are fairly sure is a tumour, although we are going through the process of ruling other stuff out. We will find out tomorrow but looks like it’s a case of making her comfortable now as surgery isn’t an option. She’s not ready for this. We’re not ready for this and I don’t know how to handle it. I’m not ready to say goodbye to my wonderful mum yet. I don’t even know why I’m writing this, I just feel so helpless and sad. Sorry to everyone who’s going through similar x
Hi Willow88 and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum.
A cancer journey like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help a lot.
The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum at this time you may benefit from joining and posting in our Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
