Hey . I’m new to the group. Bit of background . My Dad has prostate cancer already outside of the prostate on diagnosis . Metastatic now .
I’m really struggling to face the reality of losing a parent . I don’t know how long we have . I feel sad all of the time . He just tells me he’s ok and that’s it just life we’ve got to just get on with it but I just feel so helpless and scared and then selfish and guilty .
Dad recently celebrated his 70th birthday and he told me ( a lot) that he loves me and that I’m special and he’s proud of me . Lovely to hear but it felt like goodbye to me 
Hi HMH001 and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and prognosis.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help a lot.
The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family and friends you may benefit from joining and posting in our Carers only and our Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
It’s a challenging time for you so you may want to use the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
