Om 20th June my husband was told that he has throat cancer by his voicebox and due to him being partially sighted they were reluctant to operate & it wasn't something he wanted and has been given 12-36 months.
On 4th July we met with the oncologist who went through treatment options & we agreed on 5 days of radiotherapy, two weeks off followed by another 5 days. Week one finished last week and after a blip by both of us one on Tuesday & the other Wednesday he decided not to ha e treatment on Thursday & was fitted in on Saturday instead. He suffered greatly with the treatment and the side affects really kicked in yesterday with vomiting, pain & tiredness.
I'm really struggling with how you face up to the future without your loved one and being unable to take away their pain is unbearable.
We take each day at a time and try to make the most of each day Subject to how he is feeling and my work commitments.
Any advice on any of the above would be much appreciated
Hi How do you cope and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your husband has recently been diagnosed with incurable throat cancer and it must be an incredibly hard time for you both.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the head and neck cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences around your husband's diagnosis and treatment, and also the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can share your worries and emotions with others who have a loved one living with cancer.
To join these groups just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start new posts like you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your husband's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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