Hi there! I am 30 years old and have just been diagnosed with HER2 positive breast cancer. I don't know what stage I am yet, still waiting for a scan (said every cancer patient always 
) I am also doing an ovarian stimulation to get some eggs frozen before we continue onwards with the more serious cancer treatments.
This all happened 4 days ago and it seems like I have lived a year worth in just a few days while at the same time I feel like time stopped altogether and I am living a nightmare waiting to wake up any time and be told it was all just a terrible dream
I am still very much processing all this new information and stupidly enough I have also been struggling with breaking the news to my friends, family and people around me.
On the one hand I dont want people to have pity, I dont want them to treat me differently, I am afraid of how they will react, I am afraid I can't control my emotions when I tell them...
I am an over-thinker by definition and I am also doing an hormone treatment for IVF that is maybe not helping me to feel as calm and collected as I could.
I have already told my family but I still dont think I can break the news to my friends and work colleagues, at least not just yet...
If you have any advice on how you broke the news to people around you let me know. Or just say hi in the comments that is good too :)
Hi PatriciaM and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that you've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and i know what a difficult stage this is when you're waiting for all the information to be gathered before your treatment plan can be decided.
The online community is divided up into different support groups, so I'm going to recommend that you join the breast cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions, share experiences and get support from others with the same type of cancer.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here, and join in with existing conversations by clicking on reply.
It would be great if you could pop something about your diagnosis and tests so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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