Hello Everyone
I have two beautiful children who are 17 and 21. After a two and a half your battle this cruel and destructive disease has taken their mum. She passed away a week ago. She was only 51. The beautiful people at the palliative care team are offering us some bereavement support. It is an understatement to say that we are devastated by this loss. As the father I wanted to ask some advice on how I will support my children through this and what is the best approach. For the first time in my life I feel overwhelmed by this and the pain my children feel after losing their beautiful mum.
I intend to support myself and them with love and space so that they have the room to grieve in their own way. What my poor children have had to witness over the last couple of years has been traumatic. The pain their mother suffered and the struggle and fear. Any advice would be most welcome from you good people.
God Bless
JC
I had never experienced on a personal level the devastation that Cancer brings into the home. This is a truly devastating disease.
God bless
Hi Jim C and welcome to the Online Community but I am so sorry to hear about your wife, my sincere condolences.
I have no idea as what this must be like but can only imagine the challenges the journey you and your children are on.
I see that you have already posted in our Ask an Expert section, they aim to reply within 2 working days.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you consider joining and posting in our dedicated Bereaved spouses and partners support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who are on the same journey, to ask questions and get support from from people who understand.
To join a group first click on the “Bold Link” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and run bereavement support for all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
