Please can someone help me. My brother has been taken into hosp with cancer he is a skeleton and not aware of his surroundings or anyone just looking into space. He also has infection. Basically he’
dying his wife has mnd and tomorrow she is going into a care home. I am having to travel 160 miles to see them on Sunday I can’t get there before as I am disabled and have hosp this week the earliest is Sunday. What I’m trying to explain is he wants to come home to die. My son can bring his bed downstairs into lounge I will stay with him for as long as I possibly can but what should I do about his wife and if I have to go home at any stage. I don’t want him to die alone my dad did that and it upset me so much. He has gone down hill within two weeks so bad. Sorry for long post. I don’t know if I’ve made any sense I’m just a mess Mandy x
Hi again Blueyes and sorry to hear how things have developed. I have no first hand experience of a situation like this so can I recommend you call the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00.
This service provides practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
You may also benefit from joining and posting in our Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others who may have navigating the same support challenges.
To join a group first click on the “Bold Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
Do get back to me is you need further help finding your way round the site.
Hi again Blueyes …… I say ti f our support line tonight as talking to someone will help you get some of this out and the support team may have some helpful suggestions for you.
I am so sorry to hear about your brother, my sincere condolences. We can only do what we can, a few years back I was not able to be at my mum’s bedside when she passed away….. it’s just how things happen at times so don’t feel guilty.
You may find it helpful to chat with others who are navigating this challenging time so do consider joining our Bereaved family and friends support group.
