My brother has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and that unfortunately there is nothing the Drs can do for him. He has been told that he could only have months left. He is 56 and lives with our elderly father. I live 60 miles away, work full time and have a family of my own to consider, however I want to be there for my brother and father. I just don't know what to expect. He has lost a lot of weight in the last couple of months, he is struggling to breath and not very forthcoming with information, he doesn't always ask the questions I would ask. He has already planned his funeral and we are slowly getting his financial affairs in order. I have lots of friends around me for support but I feel I need more.
Hi desperate sister and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your brothers diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help a lot.
The Community is actually divided into Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting family and friends you may benefit from joining and posting in our Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer support groups where you will connect with others navigating the exact same support challenges.
To join a group first click on the “Bold Links” I have created above then once the group page opens click on “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
You can then put up your own post when you’re ready by clicking “+new” or “+” in the top right next to the group title. You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post. You can also scroll through other members posts and click “Reply” to get involved.
Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat where you will find one of team there to help you out. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Do get back to me if you need further help.
